No Gender December….please….
So December is #NoGenderDecember, and as I write this blog, I am preparing for all hell fire to break loose, because what I am about to say definitely conflicts with what the current culture would say, but hey….I have never been one to “fit in” so here goes…..
“No gender December” is a month set aside to encourage consumers to buy more inclusive, gender-neutral toys. Because, being gender neutral is “good.”
I think there can be a lot of confusion about gender, gender identity, gender dysphoria, hey, you name it and there doesn’t have to be. In fact, I think the media thrives on this, and even obsesses over this in a weird somewhat psychotically creepy kinda way. With viral video’s of boys choosing to be girls at the age of five, girls wanting to use boys restrooms, men professing to be women after being married for over twenty years with four kids, it can cause your head to spin, I get it….it can be a lot to take in.
Here’s the first thing I want to say, God made you, and he made your gender, and God does not make mistakes….never….not for a second, no matter who the hell tells you HE does….HE DOES NOT. God knew you before he formed you in your mother’s womb and HE knew what gender you were going to be.
Who says a boy can’t like pink or a girl can’t like pushing trucks and cars across the floor as a toddler….SOCIETY!!!! And they want to make you headline news if you want to kick a soccer ball around instead of play barbies too. Ok so you may tend to be more masculine or feminine, big deal ….that doesn’t mean you are the wrong gender…..nope, it doesn’t. Why, because you are perfectly and fearfully made, and God does not make mistakes.
The absolutely amazing gift of GENDER: “God created mankind in his OWN image, in the image of God he created them; MALE and FEMALE he created them,” Genesis 1:27.
How awesome is that! We are created in the very image and likeness of God. He knows the feminine just as much as he knows the masculine.
What we have done as a society is deny Gender, “neutralize” it, instead of openly embracing it!
I don’t care what you say: MEN and WOMEN are different period.
We look different, we think different and yes, we solve differently.
I will be totally upset about something and vent to my husband, his first response is to SOLVE, not necessarily listen, but SOLVE, and all I want is someone to LISTEN to me complain for a second geeeez!
The picture of “feminine” is seen today on almost every magazine cover as a- pre-pubescent girl in stilettos with NO curves, and she is to be representing women and all our “femininity!” Come on, really!??
Goes the same way for guys too….try shopping with a man that’s 6’5, 210lb (my husband), you would think that he was an alien from another planet with his stature….all stores today solely suite the metro-sexual mans lifestyle -if you are taller than 6 foot and have broad shoulders, you are a gargantuan that needs to go on a diet to shrink….your height??? Ummmm….is that even possible??? Ughhhh…..
Here’s the deal….and my point, your gender, is fascinating. It is! Why? Because the Creator of the universe consists of BOTH and He is the Creator, and he made you the gender you ARE.
I believe our job as parents is to shine light on the absolute awesomeness of GENDER!
To be a guy and stand and pee-AWESOME!
To be a woman and have the ability to nurse a baby with her breast alone, in the early months of life, -Awesome!
To be a man, and think farting is Awesome-Awesome (I guess 😉 )!
To be a woman, and have the ability to grow life inside of you, Awesome!
To be a man, and have the ability to consume alcohol, and that not result in talking all about the “drama” in your life-Awesome!
To be a women, and to not consume any alcohol, and with total liberty, talk about all the drama in your life, Awesome!
We are different, and different it GOOD.
I was guided as a child, and I think that’s where the new “en vogue” generation of my time has completely lost it. It has not resulted in progress but instead, complete and utter confusion. Parents don’t know their ass from their elbows anymore. Moms today don’t know whether to panic or rejoice if their two year old boy picks up a truck to play with….and they question if their daughter will have some form of an eating disorder if she plays with barbies….enough!!!! Geeeezzz… Enough….
I say we guide and encourage our boys to explore their masculinity and we guide and encourage our girls to explore their femininity. We have become so shell shocked as parents that any form of parenting at this point is seen as invasive in our own child’s exploration of self and this….this is insanity!
If the role of parent is not to guide, then what is it???
I believe the role of parent is to openly embrace and encourage the gender in which our child was designed.
To praise, celebrate and explore our gender, not to deny it.
“You want to wear mommies lipstick, well I want to be able to pee outside in the bushes like you do! But, we are different and being different is awesome….NOT bad!”
It is our differences that make us unique.
Just because your daughter likes airplanes, doesn’t mean she wouldn’t like a doll too….have you offered her one?
If our boys knew how fully awesome it was to be boys and our girls new how fully awesome it was to be girls….we’d have a lot less confusion, questioning…..and second guessing….